It’s Always Something

Written by Jackie Tinkler

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It’s always something right?
Bills to pay, tight schedules, a racing mind, unmet expectations, overwhelmed plans, anxiety attacks and sleepless nights. Instead of living our dreams, we’re waiting for the next ball to drop.  How many of us feel like we’re just surviving, coping and not really living?  How can we overcome the worry that’s worrying us?adult alone anxious black and white

 

Jesus said we wouldn’t have to worry when He will help us feel okay because God’s peace is very near…

 

This is Jesus speaking to his disciples

“Now you finally believe in me.  And the time has come when you will all be scattered and each of you will go your own way, leaving me alone!” Yet, I am never alone, for the Father is always with me. And everything I’ve taught you is so that the peace which is in me will be in you and will give you great confidence as you rest in me. For in this unbelieving world, you will have trouble and sorrows, but you must be courageous, for I have conquered the world.” John 16:31-33 (The Passion Translation)

 

There is no peace to find in this world.  None!  And if you do, it will not comfort but only prove to be a false sense of security and be short lived. Worrying is unproductive, a waste of time and is a joy stealer.  On the flip side, the peace we need comes from God himself; a supernatural peace which shields and covers like a blanket of love that makes everything okay inside.    It’s a knowing that He loves us and will see us through.

 

I remember a time when I went through a long and lengthy trial.  I had God’s assurance that everything in the end would turn out fine, but did I stay calm and rest in that assurance?  No, I did not, and as a result my mind was not at peace, I gained weight from overeating to comfort myself, my blood pressure was up, I was exhausted as well as anxiety ridden, and I couldn’t sleep.  It was like being on a roller coaster.  One day I would  feel confident and the next I was hiding under the covers and eating cookies!  The end result was it was more than okay and I could see how God sustained me through it all but it was my choice to worry, even when He said not to.  What did I gain from worrying?

 

Here are the three ways I found to calm my worried mind and have peace

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  • Find Peace
In John 15:27 Jesus tell us Not to look for peace from the world.  He will leave us the gift of a peaceful mind and heart only through the Holy Spirit.  “And I will send you the Divine Encourager from the very presence of my Father, He will come to you, the Spirit of Truth, emanating from the Father, and he will speak to you about me.”
  • Follow after Peace
Follow the leading of the Holy Spirit; He is our counselor and teacher.  He leads us away from trouble and into the safety of our Father’s arms.  He shows us the right path for our unique journey and gives us wisdom to get there.
  • Fight for peace
What you feed will grow so resist the enemy and he will flee from you!  Don’t allow negative thoughts and concerns in that overwhelm, cause confusion or torment.  Replace them with God thoughts by reading and meditating on His word.  God’s Word is life and health to our mind. You have the mind of Christ which is a sound mind, free from worry and operating in power.

IMG_3892Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Development Director of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study “Something Beautiful” and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at Church of the Highlands, decorating her friends homes, enjoying time with her family and chocolate lab Nelson or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

 

 

When You Want What They Have

Written by Jackie Tinkler

 

“If I just diminish her somehow, look away, point out her flaws, tell others she’s really not that great, then just maybe and  not purposely, but secretly, I’ll build myself up and have the love I desire”  …Jackie Tinkler

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Women want to be amazing, we want to be told how wonderful, beautiful and worthy we are.   The problem is we don’t want anyone else to be too much more amazing than we are!   Why?  Because the back story is “no one loves me.”
Here is our narrative…
I feel something missing, something I truly need and desire.  I don’t really know what it is, but I see something SHE has and I think I need it. So I fix my eyes on HER and what she has (or I think she has) and what I really fear is that SHE will get the love I deserve and want.   So, I act out in my fears to get the love I want.  I now feel comforted and secure.  But, it doesn’t last because I need MORE the next day and the next. It’s impossible to keep me filled up.

What I truly need is to know the love of Christ, which has not filled my whole heart.  My identity is in something other than Him.  Now, I’m to compete and contend for the love I need and it’s exhausting.

Aren’t we fearful when we don’t feel loved? Doesn’t the scripture tell us that perfect love casts out fear?  To ease our pain, we tell ourselves a comforting story to make us feel better, one that convinces us that we need to one up or put someone else beneath us. The truth is, if we were rooted and grounded in the security and love of Christ, there is no competition because the Love of God knows no bounds and there is enough for all of us to feel full.  I know, it’s a hard realization, but we are in need of God’s far reaching marvelous love to fill our whole heart.  No more competing, no more jealousy, no more lack.

 

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DON’T NEED WHAT YOU HAVE BECAUSE I ALREADY HAVE ALL I NEED

 

 

 

 

Let this scripture sink in…
Ephesians 3:17-18 ” Then, by constantly using your faith, the life of Christ will be released deep inside you and the resting place of his love will become the very source and root of your life.  Then you will be empowered to discover what every holy one experiences-the great magnitude of the astonishing love of Christ in all its dimensions.  How deeply intimate and far-reaching is his love! How enduring and inclusive it is! Endless love beyond measurement that transcends our understanding – this extravagant love pours into you until you are filled to overflowing with the fullness of God!”
Why would Paul make such a statement unless He truly experienced God’s love?
Dear friend, take heart…you are loved ENOUGH.  I would love it if today we released our whole hearts to God and asked him to fill it with a crazy love we can never understand…the only love that heals our hurt.  I promise, He will be the love of our lives!  Pray with me..
Father, release your empowering love to fill our hearts with hope. Let us not linger in this place of fear any longer.   Help us to be honest with ourselves and you as we no longer contend, compete, or fear for the gifts, talents, possessions, or beauty of others. We are built up secure and strong in your intimate love.  Where we feel lack, show us how strong and beautiful we really are! That one of  a kind girl!  You’ve given to us all the opportunity to comprehend “with all the saints what is the length and width, height and depth of your love. May that love grow deep in us as we feel more and more at home with ourselves and others.” 

 

IMG_3892Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Development Director of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study “Something Beautiful” and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at Church of the Highlands, decorating her friends homes, enjoying time with her family and chocolate lab Nelson or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

 

 

There Is a Way From Here

Written by Jackie Tinkler

For years I had a rainbow over my head and the sun shining wherever I went.  Nothing ever really happened that was considered a “crisis,” “stressful,” or even remotely “devastating.”  I think sometimes our little bubbles preclude us from trouble, but as life moves on and we meet more people outside of our “bubble,” we try new things, we live long enough, we make mistakes and decisions that alter our course, we find out things don’t always work out as planned.

Somehow our beautiful day now becomes heavy with responsibility, challenges, crisis, stress, heartaches, financial pressure, and just difficulties all around that become chronic and most days are like this.   You may wonder, “Why is it that some get to skate by in life with very little to contend with?”

Do you ever try to  pinpoint exactly when it happened?  When did it go “wrong?”  Where was it?  Do you beat yourself up for decisions you wish were different?  Me too!   But, God doesn’t think like this, in fact, he sees you sitting in the green grass with the sun shining on your face because he knows the way you should take from here.  There is a way you can take “from here” which does not require going back to make it right. It can be right “from here.”  You won’t find God saying,  “See, I told you not to do that, now go back and fix it.”  It’s more like, “Hey, look to me, forget that stuff and I’ll make you smile again. I know the way from here”

” I admit that I haven’t acquired the absolute fullness that I’m pursuing, but I run with passion into his abundance so that I may reach the purpose that Jesus Christ has called me to fulfill and wants me to discover.  I don’t depend on my own strength to accomplish this; however, I do have one compelling focus; I forget all of the past as I fasten my heart to the future instead.” Philippians 3:12-13 (The Passion Translation)

Girlfriend, there is power to change it, to hold on, to be okay and to find a way through the mess. If we only know which way to take.  God said this in Jeremiah 29:11-13:  “I’ll show up and take care of you as I promised and bring you back home. I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for. When you call on me, when you come and pray to me, I’ll listen.  When you come looking for me, you’ll find me.”

The problem is the negative voices swirling around in our heads, the well-meaning, ill-timed advice from friends or the notion that we can figure this out on our own and it will all be fine. But, it isn’t.  I think we get to the place where we have no other choice but to find God and His way.

In this age of immediate gratification, we can’t fathom going the slow way, but often it’s the little steps taken everyday that lead to progress. No pressure, no weight, just one foot in front of the other much like following the “yellow brick road” that led to the adventures and lessons, that led to  the “Wizard of Oz” and finally that led to the power (faith) that was inside all along to get back home.

Maybe “everything” is not always supposed to work out.  If it did, we may never find the path God intended for us all along.  You see, it’s in the hard places that we finally acknowledge we need God and where new life is forged.

Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder along with Amber Edwards of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She has also written a women’s small group study “Something Beautiful” and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at Church of the Highlands, decorating her friends homes, enjoying time with her family and chocolate lab Nelson or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

Limitless Together

Written by Jackie Tinkler

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I came across a recent blog post written by Joyce Meyer on unity where she said,  “Where there’s unity, there’s blessing and anointing. When people are thankful for each other and choose to live in unity, they will experience the power of agreement.”

How wonderful and pleasant it is when brothers live together in harmony!” Psalm 133:1 NLT

Think of all of the ideas, plans and dreams you may have had over a lifetime.  Somewhere along the way, someone had to agree with those plans.  Somewhere there had to be a unified YES!  When we’re hired for a job, a team of employers come into agreement about us.  When we plan a family vacation, all come into agreement about where to go.  What happens if one person disagrees?  Typically, we reevaluate and make different plans!   Or, what about when friends want to meet for lunch?  Several choices are presented and agreed upon.  Those are small examples, but what about the big stuff?  What happens when important life choices are put on hold for lack of agreement?  How do we arrive at unified decisions? Are we praying together to seek God’s will at that time?  Are we humbling ourselves to listen for His direction?

Jesus walked in agreement with his Father God COMPLETELY and went to the cross.  We now have forgiveness, wholeness, redemption, restoration, healing and all things through the power of  Jesus’ agreement and sacrifice.  There’s power in agreement!

“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.  For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18: 19-20 NIV

I remember leading a ministry meeting several years ago. Whether we knew it or not, the health of the ministry began with those meetings. However, progress would stop when an idea was presented not everyone agreed with.    The room would suddenly get quiet and the air would get thick.  There was no movement happening!   It was so uncomfortable!  We would regain momentum when we would talk it through and all agree to either table the idea or go forward in unity with a decision all were comfortable with.  Only then the tension would lift and peace would guide our way.

Something to  ponder….

What wonder-working, amazing things can we do together in agreement with God’s will?

Am I loving myself and others to God’s best with His purposes in mind?

How can we overcome disagreement and still move forward in unity?

If coming into agreement means compromise, being out of God’s will, or hurting myself, family, or other people we should agree not to move forward.

We can be limitless together. We have the mind of Christ to accomplish infinitely MORE!

 

IMG_3892Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Development Director of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study “Something Beautiful” and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at Church of the Highlands, decorating her friends homes, enjoying time with her family and chocolate lab Nelson or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

Enjoy The Holidays Without Disappointment

 Written by Jackie Tinkler

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Schedules, drama, and high expectations can all take the joy right out of the Christmas season.

The holidays might not always unfold the way we plan and truth be told, they can actually be a mixed bag of excitement and stress all at the same time!  We may even think that somehow problems will disappear magically only to be disappointed when things don’t meet our expectations.

How do we get through the stress of the expectations of family, friends and even ourselves in a practical, life giving way, while still focusing on what’s important and the real reason we celebrate?

Here are a few ways to make it easier to navigate the holidays when things don’t go as expected.

  1. Remember to keep Jesus first and why we celebrate.  Pray for your home, friends and family and ask God to bless them.
  2. You matter too!  Guard your heart.  It’s okay to say “no” to too much or “no” to unproductive discussions about the day.
  3. Set boundaries (with love) when others are unwilling to bend or are insensitive to your limits.  Remember that everyone has their own idea of how they want things to be for Christmas.  We have to love ourselves and love them enough to honor what’s best.
  4. If money is an issue, use your creative talent to make something special from the heart.  You don’t have to go all out for appearances.
  5. Give the gift of your time to a community outreach. Serving others is a blessing and will keep things in perspective.
  6. Family traditions are hard to break, but if they’re not fun or meaningful anymore, then maybe it’s time to explore something new.
  7. Let go of perfection.  Your house doesn’t have to be perfect.  It’s okay to ask people to bring a dish and it’s okay if wrapping paper and dirty dishes make a mess for a few hours.  Enjoy people!
  8. Lean on God through the stress.  Talk to Him when something feels out of your control.

Let us know how you’re doing! Keep Jesus at the center of Christmas and you will surely have a blessed holiday!

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“That night there were shepherds staying in the fields nearby, guarding their flocks of sheep. Suddenly, an angel of the Lord appeared among them, and the radiance of the Lord’s glory surrounded them.  They were terrified, but the angel reassured them “Don’t be afraid!” he said.  “I bring you good news that will be great joy to all people.  The Savior-yes-the Messiah, the Lord has been born today in Bethlehem, the city of David! And you will recognize him by this sign:  You will find a baby wrapped snugly in strips of cloth, lying in a manger.”  Suddenly the angel was joined by a vast host of others-the armies of heaven-praising God and saying “Glory to God in the highest heaven, and peace on earth to those whom God is pleased.” Luke 2:8-14 NLT

IMG_3892Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Development Director of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study “Something Beautiful” and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at Church of the Highlands, decorating her friends homes, enjoying time with her family and chocolate lab Nelson or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

Let Your Dreams Grow

Written by Jackie Tinkler

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As I peeked from behind the massive dark curtain onto the expansive stage which overlooked rows of theatre seats, I was afraid and excited all at the same time. I was waiting in the wings for my turn to dance and what would seem like eternity. We practiced, we knew every step, and this was the night before the big night. Just one more rehearsal…

The lights were bright, the music was enchanting, and there was a scuffle of tap shoes hitting the stage floor with force and rhythm. It was all I could take! My nervous energy got to me, so I ran out on that stage and danced like I never have before. There was one slight problem. I made my entrance too early and found myself dancing with the wrong class. There was a sea of girls, clicking and clacking all around me and they had to be at least six feet tall.

“This is not where I’m supposed to be,” I thought, “but what do I do?” By now, I could hear astonished laughter from the wings. Instead of running off the stage, I continued to keep up with every step, dancing until the song ended. Did you get that? I kept dancing!

This story from my childhood dance recital resonates with fearless innocence. It was the first time, I believe, I was brave and fearless and learned not to quit when things got uncomfortable. I just thought, “I can do this!”

Some of us may feel what we are currently experiencing, our happy ever after, is not the dream we signed up for. How can our wonderful, joyful, beautiful dreams be mixed up in a difficult place like this? Fear beckons us to turn back and run! But God wants us to hang in there for the duration of the dance. Why? Because there is more and He knows you can do this! God’s dream is to watch us mature, be complete,  and lack nothing. “Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” James 1:4 NIV

In essence, we are permitting the difficulty or delay to create MORE in us so we can handle the promises of God through us with complete maturity and success. It’s as if we’re letting our dreams grow rather than letting them go.

“So, don’t lose a minute in building on what you’ve been given, complementing your basic faith with good character, spiritual understanding, alert discipline, passionate patience, reverent wonder, warm friendliness, and generous love, each dimension fitting into and developing the others. With these qualities active and growing in your lives, no grass will grow under your feet, no day will pass without its reward as you mature in your experience of our Master Jesus.” 2 Peter 1:5-8 The Message

You see those tight, awkward, lonely, tough places are where our dream grows bigger…they are the very things that give us sparkle, add depth, give us strength for the future, and help to keep us ready for MORE.

Father God,
You are the author and finisher of our faith and life. When life gets difficult, give us the patience to keep going and not to quit. You see what’s ahead and the things we need to be successful on the journey. We place every dream, difficulty, and obstacle into your capable hands so you can create Something More in us.

IMG_3892Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Development Director of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study “Something Beautiful” and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at Church of the Highlands, decorating her friends homes, enjoying time with her family and chocolate lab Nelson or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

Two Are Better Than One

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They say if you want a job done, do it yourself.   What if there is a better way to get the job done, meet goals and finish well?  I’ve learned it’s about working smart and that means working together.   God showed me that it is so much better to empower others to their destiny and gifts than to try to do everything myself. It takes a team to make a dream!  What an amazing beautiful realization!

While coordinating and directing women’s conferences a few years ago, I realized I needed a team in order to get more done.   I would gather several teams of volunteers together who would help to oversee each aspect of the conference and I would oversee the leaders of those teams.  All the teams worked together to form one harmonious grand finale…the conference.   What a joy it was to see women helping women as they used their gifts and talents to cheer one another on.  Each piece and part fit cohesively as many different personalities came together to accomplish something wonderful!

Ecclesiastes 4:9 •
“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labor.”

We’re better together when we double our efforts and work in loving harmony to accomplish MORE!

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Whether you are working, have a career, in full-time ministry,  a stay at home mom, or a volunteer, you are going to find yourself either leading or working on a team at some point. Here are few tips for working together to accomplish a big goal.  Enjoy!

  • Delegate tasks that are not your strengths
  • Pray together
  • Talk about a Plan B when Plan A doesn’t work
  • Manage expectations and be flexible
  • Celebrate often
  • Make room for the new; reach for the next level
  • Let others shine; develop people to MORE
  • Think the best
  • Don’t keep going over what went wrong, fix it and move on
  • Resolve conflicts quickly; be willing to let offenses go
  • Be self-aware
  • Know when to back down
  • Listen more, talk less
  • Be relevant and adaptable, but keep the main thing, the main thing
  • Know your capacity and stay in your lane

 

Keep your eyes on God and the goal and He’ll get you there.  Be encouraged, and when opposition comes against you, when others misunderstand you, when someone doesn’t get your “personality,” when deadlines are tight and it seems you won’t make it, simply love others, keep your faith and press on toward the goal!

IMG_3891Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Development Director of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study, Something Beautiful, and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at her home church, Church of the Highlands, home styling for friends, on the hiking trail with her husband, Jim and their chocolate lab, Nelson, talking with their adult daughter Lauren or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

Stay Strong

Written by Jackie Tinkler

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Are you finding it hard to stay encouraged in a situation where you are enduring a difficult relationship, job, or circumstance?    Have you had enough?  Do you imagine making a scene, telling them off, quitting that job or storming out because somewhere in the mix of the reality, you are experiencing inconvenience or unfair treatment?  We feel we have a right to feel the way we do and a right to say so.

In today’s culture, to be meek is a sign of “weakness.”  But…did you know that the word Jesus used when he said, “Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth” (Matthew 5:5) actually means “strength under control?”  The meek, being teachable and gentle, WILL inherit the earth when all is placed right.  We can learn from Jesus’ example of gentle, firm endurance: His ability to stay in control, yet be completely humble and patient in dealing with difficulty, even though He was the powerful son of God.

In my early days of ministry, I remember holding my tongue about a situation that I KNEW was unfair toward me. I held back for five years! I tried to walk in love, I tried to act like I was fine, until one day I decided I had had enough. I know, this is not going to be good. I thought “God, how long do I have to be ‘nice’ and endure this?” Thinking it was a good idea,  I marched into my director’s office, told her what I thought about the situation, which in my mind had gone on long enough, and held nothing back. I think I ranted for at least 30 minutes! She just sat there with her jaw to the floor and didn’t know what to say. When I was done, I felt relieved,  like, “There, now that’s better.” But, I heard God say, “Okay, are you proud of yourself now?” Days later, I received a good talking to, not about the grievance, but the angry and frustrated way I handled it.  I wasn’t very meek, I’m afraid, so I totally blew it!   Don’t misunderstand.  It sure felt good to say it, but it was not the way God wanted me to take care of it. Thank God for His grace and that he doesn’t hold it against me!

It is always best to put on the life-giving love of Christ and gently forbear grievances.  It’s not easy, but doable, because we walk with Him.  Is there someone or something trying your patience?  Ask God to strengthen you with the wisdom of the Holy Spirit, and the humility needed to walk that thing out well. Ask Him for a meekness that says,  “I’m strength under control.”

Father God, you know how I want to make things right in my own way.  I ask you to help me to humble myself under the mighty hand of God and in due time you will exalt me.  I ask that I am able to put on the meekness of Christ, counting others better than myself and sacrificing my need to be right for the peace and love of Christ to grow in my relationships and personal circumstances.

IMG_3891Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Development Director of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study Something Beautiful and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at her home church, Church of the Highlands, home styling for friends, on the hiking trail with her husband, Jim and their chocolate lab, Nelson, talking with their adult daughter Lauren or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

Beautiful on a Budget

Written by Jackie Tinkler

So…a few years back, we were downsized considerably.  The housing and job market tanked, there were job losses and changes that left us picking up the pieces of our upper middle class lifestyle; all just as we were about to become empty nesters and begin the next phase of our lives.   Being forced to let go of everything is not such a bad thing, particularly when you find hidden treasure in the pieces. No longer do I need expensive things to satisfy my desire for beauty.   In fact, I have found it amazingly fun to find beauty in the everyday ordinary places in my home and around me.

Over the years, I have embraced this new place with even more appreciation.   Don’t get me wrong, it was hard, but  I have learned to live more creatively and beautifully than ever before.  God has given me an abundance of inspiration in creating a cohesively attractive, yet simple living space, I can be content in, even on a budget.

Maybe you can relate and are trying to find the beautiful after the struggle, the diagnosis or the change.  Whatever it may be, let me encourage you to create a lovely home from the scattered pieces of your life so it is your haven, a safe place and a refuge from the storm.

Here are my top five ways to live more creative and beautiful on a budget! Remember to keep to what you love and not worry about staying on trend so much if you don’t like the trend.  If you love a more traditional look, go for it.  I like to mix traditional,  cozy romantic and antique country with a few artsy eclectic pieces.

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There are amazing and beautiful deals in the thrift stores, Facebook Marketplace and consignment shops.  You have to be willing to find them.  First, all items in both pictures were purchased either at consignment, thrift or antique malls.  The two beautiful red chairs in the first picture were bought at a consignment shop for less than $ 100.00 for both.     The dark chocolate brown library chair directly above was purchased for $12.00 at an antique mall,  the lamp sitting on the desk was $10.00 at a thrift store, and the deer holding a cigar was a Target purchase.  The pricier pieces are the antique side table serving as a coffee table and walnut antique cabinet circa 1900.  They were my “splurges” but still a good buy.  Give yourself permission to purchase one or two splurges when you have the $$.

 

 

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If you find a piece you can’t live without but it doesn’t quite “go with” your look, paint it!  This antique sewing machine was given to us by a friend.  To fit with our current décor style, we painted it this trendy blue and it looks amazing!

 

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You are allowed to mix and match chairs at your dining or breakfast table.  This will save on your budget because it allows you to use chairs from around the house or “onesies” you may find out and about. I pulled in the wicker bench from the porch to add a little something different here.   Think outside the box. For example, all of my chairs don’t need to match and be from the furniture store as long as the colors are cohesive.
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Furniture placement is important for a stylish and balanced space.  Think “gathering” place.  You want to pull the furniture away from the walls and place it in a “group” for cozy conversation around the fireplace, TV or focal point in the room. Once the furniture is placed in a grouping, fill in the rest with accessories, pillows, throws, and lamps.
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Create a place in either the kitchen or living room for hospitality.  Your family members and guests will LOVE this cozy spot to make a cup of coffee, grab a cup of tea or water and snack on a pastry at any time.  You will love the ease of serving as well!

 

IMG_3891Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Director at Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study Something Beautiful and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at her home church, Church of the Highlands, home styling for friends, on the hiking trail with her husband, Jim and their chocolate lab, Nelson, talking with their adult daughter Lauren or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.

 

 

I Am a Pearl

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Written by Danielle Smith and Jackie Tinkler

Encapsulated and protected by His grace I grow.  Just a bead of sand strengthened by the power of time.

At the deepest depths of the ocean, in the darkest places on this planet, like a pearl being layered with nacre, I grow stronger still.

The pressures of my world beating down on me,  protected within my lair, not shaken by my circumstances; I grow stronger still.

I am safe and protected. In the stillness I find my strength and  in the light I live.  I grow stronger still.

The vastness of God’s presence penetrates the darkness of the abyss where I wait for freedom.  I grow stronger still.

God, you choose to give me your life.  Just a bead of sand layered by your love, crafted into a rare pearl.

A true gem is very rare and uniquely crafted. It’s in the secret places of my soul that God makes me beautiful in his layers of grace.   I’m not just one pearl, but a strand bound together by His love.  I’m strong, I’m capable, I’m unrivaled.

Yet… I grow stronger still

“I will give you the treasures of darkness and the hidden riches of secret places, so that you may know that I am the LORD, the God of Israel, who calls you by name.” Isaiah 45:3

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IMG_6150My name is Danielle Smith!  I am married to an incredible man Scott Smith, who is also my best friend.  I have two incredible children, for which I feel I am truly blessed.  I love to laugh and spend time with my family and friends.  I hope to make you laugh a time or two while reading my articles!

 

 

 

IMG_3892Jackie Tinkler is the Co-Founder and Ministry Development Director of Something More and lives in Birmingham, Alabama. She has been ministering to women for 20 years as a Women’s Ministry Director, Counselor and Producer. She is co-writing a Women’s Small Group Study Something Beautiful and when not leading women to freedom can be found worshipping at her home church, Church of the Highlands, home styling for friends, on the hiking trail with her husband, Jim and their chocolate lab, Nelson, talking with their adult daughter Lauren or sitting in the balcony at the Alabama Theatre.